Feeling shame? Or maybe not?

Today, I would like to share with you a brief (and, unfortunately sad) reflection of the recent, still summer Sunday’s walking through the streets of Warsaw. I was brought up in the tradition of Sunday’s go out to the town together with parents (earlier) or with wife and friends (today). For me it was (and still is) something special, something very nice, a great way to stay together, to talk, to visit long-unseen places. Therefore, when choosing a dress for such output, almost intuitively, I decide on a suit with a reduced degree of formality (i.e. linen in summer, flannel in winter), coordinated set or simply jacket with chinos (always a safe choice). I believe that this is the attire appropriate to the circumstances, expressing my respect for those with whom I meet, and by the way  comfortable and airy in the summer or warm enough in the winter.

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Unfortunately, more and more often I have the feeling of being in a completely different reality than most. Can you believe that during the 2-hour walk through Krakowskie Przedmieście, on the route from the Bristol Hotel to the Royal Castle, among the huge crowd of walkers I managed to select one man in jacket (and sports one)? One !!! ???
For the sake of fairness, I must add that a large part of that crowd were tourists, mainly foreigners, and you know – a man on vacation can more (although nothing justifies socks with sandals or sports sandals assumed to suit pants !!!!), but still there is a huge crowd of those who came to take a walk, meet with family or friends for coffee or dinner. Among that multitude the most painful impression made such a juxtaposition: woman in a nice dress, high-heeled shoes and a handbag and man who was accompanying her with faded / wrinkled T-shirt of indeterminate colour, shorts (usually jeans) and sports shoes, enriched with tasteful white, gray or black socks. Is there something more depressing than such a view? There is!!! Men, who mistook the streets of the Old Town and Sunday walk with a stroll along the beach so they decided that the most dainty shoes are flip flops.

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This is not a dress for going to the city. Photo: trójmiasto.rozrywka.pl

Since women generally have much better taste than men and much better sense of style, so I appeal to all female readers: if that what you read above bothers you, then do the first step! You do not have to stand for it! If you are doing everything to please your men and to make them proud of you, then they also should prove to you a little respect and dress according to the circumstances. Persuade them to do so, show them good examples, teach them.

And to us, the men, I have a question: aren’t we ashamed? Are we so focused on work / making money / passions or any other things, that we could not or do not want to devote a little attention to this how we look and how we communicate with the environment through our outfit? Are we really the followers of the theory of the founder of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg, in whose wardrobe hangs supposedly a row of identical gray T-shirts and who once said that he is so busy and focused on the work that he doesn’t want to waste a single moment of his precious time figuring out the irrelevant things, such as what to wear today?

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I dare say that if he learns the basic rules of dress-code and composing clothes, it will not be the wasted time, it will take as long as a cup of coffee, and young people will gain outstanding trendsetter …

 

What do you think about this?

 

Bartek Górzny
Bartek Górzny

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